There are a number of these terms that must have been really colloquial and maybe even localized, because they aren't found at all in the 400 million word COHA corpus, and are quite rare in even the 155 billion word Google Books corpus.These include terms like chunk of lead (unpopular young woman; in Google Books, but usually referring to the metal), sheba (the female equivalent to the male sheik, as with Rudolph Valentino; hard to disambiguate in Google Books), strike breaker (a woman who was ready to date her boyfriend's best friend as soon as the relationship was over; nearly always referring to work stoppage in Google Books), and a woman who knows her oil (i.e.I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…
I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.
I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.