What happens in 20 years when he is older with grandkids, still living with his younger girlfriend who he wont marry because he is now against marriage, meanwhile that girlfriend is in the prime of her life with no ring and no kids....Just had to vent its bothering me and I would love some advice on how to deal with the situation and my emotions. If he is senior to you, and specially with huge age gaps, he would have certain habits , experiences which are irreversible.. I am sorry he is not the best fit for you, i don't mind age gaps. He is very smothering sometimes - as in, never wants me to be apart from him ie: I want to go to dinner with friends, get away for the weekend by myself, etc.-- I would be remiss if I didn't also share some cautions to keep in mind.In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).You’ll need a lot of patience and will-power to overcome the drawbacks of dating a divorcee.But if you’ve found yourself someone great, this really shouldn’t be so difficult.
Now it’s time for you to get back out there and start living again.
Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.
We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface. We would be wise to observe their reactions, heed their reasoned warnings, and consider their hesitation. If you each have children at different stages -- for example, your kids are in elementary school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship.
You don’t need official statistics to tell you divorce is a pretty strong trend. If you’re lucky, he has learned from the past and won’t make those same errors again with you. Sometimes people make the same mistakes in their relationships, over and over and over again. If you’re dating a divorced guy who has a tendency to repeat errors continuously in other areas of his life, then you’d better beware. A serious problem may come up if your guy has been hurt by his failed marriage. ) ended the relationship, then you might have an up-hill-battle on your hands.
But in today’s world, where divorce is the norm, you might want to reconsider. A divorced man is likely to already have made mistakes in the past that an unmarried guy may not yet have experienced. Make sure you’ve got someone who admits to past mistakes and wants to do better in the future.