These tips can help you get started on the right foot... But this is your life and you are the one who gets to live it, not someone else. As a single mom, it's easy for your whole life to be wrapped up in your kids.If your kids are young, just imagine how many years you'll be out of the dating scene before they leave home. Don't expect your kids to be overjoyed when you first start dating. Explain that you love them, but you also like to spend time with your friends (just like they do). And as the adult, you get to make the decisions and not your kids. But they shouldn't be the main topic of conversation during your date.Yet, you may be plagued with questions about when and how to introduce your kids.Before you take that all-important step, consider this advice for dating with children: A lot of single parents ask, "When should I introduce my kids to the person I'm dating?Expand Your Social Circle – Many times it is hard to meet new people when you’re waiting for your same friends, co-workers, or churches to introduce you to singles they know.Use all the great technology and dating innovations now available to meet new people – online dating, meet-ups, social networking, speed dating, mixers and more.2. Makeover Yourself – Most of the makeover you need is probably mental.When you’re first dating all you need to say is that you’re going out with a friend. If you’re getting to the point when it’s time for your kids to meet this new partner, create a scene for success. Say that you’d like them to meet this special friend (they should know the person’s name by now).They don’t even have to know his or her name at this stage. Reassure them “All kids want to know is that they’re still the most important people in your life no matter what. You can acknowledge their question, assess whether or not it’s one you should answer and just simply tell them that you aren’t going to answer that right now. Then listen, acknowledge and validate—no matter what their reaction is.
While I’ve since married a great guy, I’m watching many now-divorced parents navigate blossoming relationships.Also, don't forget to schedule relaxation and alone time for yourself! Ask For Introductions – Many single moms are shy about letting people know they are single and ready to mingle.Don’t make the assumption that friends and co-workers would set you up on dates if they knew someone who was right for you.They’re quickly discovering what I did—dating with kids in tow is a whole different scenario.One of the biggest issues we face from the get-go is: What do we say to our kids? I asked Toronto psychotherapist Jana Brankov for some surefire tips. Talk to them Trying to hide the fact that you’re dating won’t work. “You need to be authentic because kids sniff us out. Keep it simple Brankov says one of the biggest mistakes dating parents make is telling their kids too much.If you feel ready to date, there is no reason to wait for the perfect time or until the nest is empty. After all, they have had you to themselves for quite a while, and now they have to share. Take some time to find out about this new man; his interests, work, and hobbies. Children get uncomfortable when there's a parade of men taking their Mom out.