My boyfriend had said lightheartedly, "I hope our son has my hair." My boyfriend has beautiful, soft curls, a genetic gift from both his races. It would be easier to manage if his hair was curly was all I'm saying." The rational part of me thought about what he was trying to say, but no matter how much I replayed it, it still didn't sound right to me. Everywhere from pop culture to the hood, men are either consciously or subconsciously telling black women they aren't "wanted." I have seen black man not even look twice at black women whom I see as beautiful, yet I've seen them break their necks for decent-looking -- dare I say unattractive -- women of other races. Granted, I think everyone is entitled to a personal preference regarding whom they like.
But when, as a black man, you start saying things such as, "I don't date black women; I don't find them attractive," I think we have an issue. As I've gotten older, I've met many men who will openly say they don't want a baby with a black woman.
I’m not going to waste a lot of time rehashing points that we all know to be true.
Black women do not like white women stealing their men. Black women have put in significant amounts of work towards supporting their men despite jail, drugs and unemployment.
They don’t appreciate it when their men run off with the “oppressor.” Therefore and moreover, Black women think that Black men know this and instead of dating white women date Latinas and Asian women.
But in summary, Black women believe that their men want the light skin, light eyes and the straight hair and that’s why they date Latinas.
It’s not Puerto Rican tradition for women to change their last names when they get married. Puerto Rican parents will most likely be more involved in your life than even your own parents.
They’ll give their opinion on everything even when you haven’t asked for it.
My boyfriend and I were having a conversation about black men vs. (He is black and Puerto Rican.) It started getting intense, and I said, "You don't get it! Even on social media, my heart will sink as I see black women I've known from high school or elementary school now say they're "black and Filipino," "black and Puerto Rican," "black and [whatever race]" -- just don't say you're fully black! I am intelligent, can hold a conversation and come from a background more like The Cosby Show than the PJs. I digress.) I know how to cook, and I am known for being "everyone's cheerleader" (that is, supportive).
(The previous paragraph is known as, “The Jill Scott Wince.”) I’m not going to even lie to you, the Black male dating pool is shot.
Many Black men are in fact in jail or in a life of crime.
Because as Christy Martinez points out, it can be incredibly complicated, and especially conflicting if it meant “denying our blackness after generations of exposure to political and societal anti-blackness.” Christy Martinez, 23, Bronx, New York Being raised in a typical Dominican household meant many things.
It meant listening to lots of merengue and bachata (especially as you cleaned the house).