If you don't even know each other's last names, it seems a bit premature to call it after only one date.Call me old fashioned, but the clingier the guy is, the more suspect I am. You've barely swallowed your first bite of spinach dip and he's asking you how long you plan on waiting before you have kids or if you want to get married.We fear that we’ll feel like a fool for making ourselves so vulnerable if things don’t work out. You were taking a shot on something that could have been special.It’s rare two people meet who feel so instantly linked—you deserve a gold star for being brave and seeing where that went. But if it does, it was going to happen if you waited 6 months to sleep together as well. Because humans are why people often lose interest in each other after sex, but hey—better to know if that is the case now than longer down the line! But I would avoid ridiculous rules like “no sex for 90 days” or until date #20.Women seem to get blamed for asking some version of this question too early on, but guys are guilty of it, too.
It can be isolating when you’re not in a primary relationship and the fear that you will always be alone can solidify into conviction, prompting a ride on the fast track into partnership.
But sometimes, you meet someone and you want to show them everything about yourself.
If the guy is showing the same signs—if he already wants to introduce you to his best friends, read you essays he wrote in high school, show you his favorite spots in town that he goes alone to think—don’t hold the same info back from him.
Ultimately, you may be disappointed, AND that is perfectly ok.
Feelings are not bad, especially feelings of sadness or disappointment.